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20 Feet from Stardom, Academy Award, backup singers, bloom where you're planted, career, finding your passion, musicians, Oscars, painting, rock and roll, Sting
Recently I wrote about finding your passion. The past few weeks, I’ve been nosing around in what it means to find a passion, and if “finding a purpose” is a more meaningful way to look at things.
In my 20s, I worked as a secretary in the engineering office of a local factory. My coworkers were great – nerdy, engineer types focused on getting the job done, creating new solutions for problems, and not giving up until they figured it out. I liked the energy around me, but after a few years, I grew restless. My work didn’t seem like “enough” anymore, so I mentioned this to one of the engineers I worked with. Al pondered a bit, smiled and said very nicely, “Bloom where you’re planted.”
I blinked. Ouch. I was a little taken aback, actually. Secretly I probably wanted Al to come around the desk with a hanky and a hug, to say that being stuck behind a desk all day must be pretty darn boring. Pity party, poor me.
It made me think, though. That job certainly wasn’t my passion, or my purpose, but what was I doing to make things better in the meantime?
Things have changed over the last two decades. Today, the number of “followers” you have or the number of hits your website got can become a measure of popularity, or worse yet, worth. It’s easy to eat this online attention like food for progress without knowing what purpose it brings.
I watched “20 Feet from Stardom,” the 2014 Academy Award-winner for best documentary about the world of backup singers. “Millions know their voices, but no one knows their names,” the synopsis says. Wow – imagine that – really! Following your dream and never truly being named. I love the rich harmony these singers bring to my favorite recordings, and was glad to learn more about them as people. Several, like Merry Clayton and Claudia Lennear, attempted solo careers that fell flat for several reasons. They sang regularly with the Rolling Stones, the Beatles, but flying solo didn’t cut it, which was understandably very difficult for these talented women to accept.
The director interviewed Sting, who said something very compelling, which applies to anyone trying to hone their craft – writers, artists, gardeners, teachers.
“For real musicians, there is a spiritual component to what they do. It’s got nothing to do with worldly success. The music is much more of an inner journey. Any other success is just cream on the cake. There’s this idea that you can go on ‘American Idol’ and suddenly become a star, but you may bypass the spiritual work you have to do to get there. If you bypass that, then your success will be wafer thin.”
Finding your passion, then, isn’t something that you’ll find under a rock or on a TV program. It’s part of your experience. My friend, Cassy Tully, is a wonderfully talented painter, capturing mood and joy with color and texture. Her most recent painting, Bloom, celebrates her artist’s journey. Not her success – her journey. I’ve written about jobs and passion before, and what I’m learning comes through very clearly: your passion isn’t “out there.” It’s more of a purpose, part of your journey, part of the way you serve those around you and the world at large. Don’t make it an unknowable, mysterious thing – start small and journey from there!
Tracy said:
I heard about that documentary before, but I will definitely check it out now. I love the idea of celebrating the journey rather than the success.
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dmswriter said:
It really is worth watching, Tracy. These women are definitely celebrating their journey, hardships and all. For me, viewing life as something with purpose resonates a lot better than trying to find a passion. It’s more about using your talents to help others. Thanks for stopping by!
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karenspath said:
What a great follow up to the last post about finding your passion. Did you ever tell Al how his words affected you? I loved it.
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dmswriter said:
No, I didn’t tell Al. He was one of the nicest people I worked with, so I knew he meant it very kindly. Sometimes those words that “sting” a bit are really little lessons, aren’t they? I remembered Al’s words, though, and used them to help me several times after that. Bloom where you’re planted!
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karenspath said:
When we all bloom where we are planted, this world will be something wonderful!
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Brenda said:
Great post and so very true!
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dmswriter said:
Thanks, Brenda – glad you liked it!
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Julie said:
Nicely said. I can relate.
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dmswriter said:
Thanks, Julie! Al’s comment gave me a little perspective, and I’ve thought of those words often since then.
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barbtaub said:
Back in the dark ages when I was in school, my guidance counselor had this quote from Henry David Thoreau on her wall: “Do what you love. Know your own bone; gnaw at it, bury it, unearth it, and gnaw it still.” I’ve been lucky enough to have loved most of the things I did, and still do. Great post! I’m so glad Susie sent me over.
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dmswriter said:
That is a great quote, especially the “know your own bone” part. It implies effort and work, which is part of the process. Thanks for stopping by!
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susielindau said:
This is so great and true! Writing has become my passion. I agree with Sting in that it is about the spiritual connection and gratification while in the process, not the popularity. It makes sense that many rise to fast and then fall. Just like bread!
Thanks for bringing this inspirational post to the party! Have fun!
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dmswriter said:
Hi Susie! When I heard Sting say that, I actually went back and listened to it again. It made such sense – it’s not about the fame, it’s about the connection to our journey, and missing that means you miss the whole point! Thanks for the party. 🙂
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susielindau said:
It’s true since I’ve hit goals and it’s glorious, but the small victories in between by creating really gets me dancing! 🙂
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Austin said:
Susie sent me! Enjoyed your post…
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dmswriter said:
Thanks, Austin! Glad you stopped by.
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lmarieallen said:
Susie sent me. This is a very timely post in my life. I just wrote a week ago about wishing that I could figure out what I’m supposed to “be”. I have a restless soul and tend to look too much toward the past or the future rather than “blooming” in the present.
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dmswriter said:
I wondered that, too! What was I supposed to “be”?? It took me a long time to realize this, but I’m already what I’m supposed to be – me. I commented on your blog with a link to an earlier article I wrote that I hope can be of help to you. 🙂
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